The entertainment industry and all other industries are full of people we want to work with and people we don't. At some point a client will make us question why we even want to work with them again. If this has ever happened to you, you get what I am saying. Why even bother to continue working with them? When do you just call it quits and move on? At what point do you just say enough is enough? Is the money really worth it or is their attitude too much to deal with?
A few months ago I met a really cool lesbian girl, I am straight, we just really clicked and hit it off. Our relationship was purely friends, and good ones at that. We would hang out at least once a week, text each other like it was going out of style, and talk on the phone all the time. It was a great friendship I hoped would last a lifetime.
One night we went out for some drinks to blow off steam. She had just broken up with her girlfriend, for the 5th time, and needed to have some fun. Being the friend I am, I wanted to support her and be there for her. We end up at an event, which was my first professional photo shoot since getting my camera, and proceeded to have a blast. Drinks, dancing, fun, music, more drinks, more fun, it was all there. We were having so much fun, her mind was off of the breakup and we had forgotten all about it for that brief time at the event. I got all the photos I needed and the night was winding down, so we decided to call it, and head home.
We both live in Oakland, and it was super late, so we had to walk up a couple of blocks to catch a bus home. During our walk things suddenly changed. She starts to get mad at me and accusing me of hitting on her. Not only was this not true, but it came out of no where. At no point throughout the night had I even so much as touched her. I spent most of the night shooting photos and seeing her here and there. So it was really shocking she would be saying this. Chalking it up to being drunk, we caught the bus just in time. As soon as we get on the bus we sit down next to each other and in the matter of seconds, she gets up and starts yelling at me how terrible I am and moves all the way up to the front of the bus. In shock, I just sat there and wished I was already home.
We get off at our stop in Oakland and get her a lyft home. The lyft ride was no better but at least she got home safe. The next day she apologized and we just moved on. It was our first time having a fight, one I might add was not even my fault, but none the less, no need in holding a grudge.
But, in hindsight, I should of saw this as a warning sign.
Another time with the same girl, we went out for drinks just to have fun. Everything was going great! We were having a good time and enjoying each other's company. As the night dwindled down, we decide to call it a night and go home. I offer to walk her home because it is late. After a couple of blocks into walking her home she starts freaking out on me, again, and starts accusing me of being a jerk... And then this turns into me hitting on her somehow, again. Mind you, not once did I do anything that would suggest me flirting or hitting on her. But here we are, again, fighting about something that didn't even happen. As we get closer to her house she try’s to pick a fight with some people on the street. There are 5 of them, one with a big ass chain, like the kind used on ships, in their hand. She starts saying all these racial slurs and being really annoying. I was able to calm her down, but she really, almost, just got both of us jumped. She of course apologizes the next day.
I am really to old to be dealing with almost getting jumped because a drunk person wants to run their mouth at thugs. Just not my thing. So I decide to except her apology... But I tell myself I just won't get drunk with her anymore.
About a month goes by, we have seen each other but not gone out drinking or anything. During our whole friendship she has been breaking up and getting back together with the same girl, and at this point it's been about 15 times this has happened. We basically talk about it everyday, well she does that is. Every time I talk about anything about myself she just turns it back around into her girl and their drama... This has been an ongoing thing since we met.
So one day I make some comment about a girl in my life, no big deal, just a normal conversation. She finds yet another way to turn it back into her problems. Then something strange happens. The next day she blows up and starts going off on me about my situation. This isn't even me asking, she just out of nowhere starts going off. She won't even stop, even when I ask her to and tell her I don't wanna fight. She continues along and starts saying all these harsh things about me. She also goes on to say I am so much drama. After two days of this, me telling her to stop, and her just continuing to go off, I decide to call it quits. Friends no more.
So what is the point of this story?
At some point we have to just call it quits. A person can only deal with so much before it becomes way too much. Clients are no different.
If you have a client who always asks way to much of you, or is always asking for your work to be redone, or is unpleasant to be around, how much should you put up with? How many times will you let this happen before you call it quits?
My rule of thumb is 3 times before I call it quits. Of course if something happens once, that is super severe, I won't wait two more times. When it's a friend I try and be open to the whole situation at hand. If drinks are involved then it is easier to say, hey let's cut back on the drinks for a while. If a client wants me to redo some work one time, no big deal. If every time they want me to redo something, after 3 times I've gotta cut my losses and move on.
Be aware of how clients are treating you. Is there a logical reason why they want you to redo some work? Or, does it seem like they keep setting you up for failure? How many times will you redo something before you hold to your guns and say no!, this is what we discussed and to change it will take it in a whole new direction?
There are people who will always accuse you of something, even when you did nothing wrong. There are people who will only talk about their problems and never let you talk about yours. These types of people are energy suckers, they suck your energy. They never see there faults and as soon as you do something similar they go off on you, even though they do the same thing all the time.
If you have clients who love your work and are always using you, these are good clients. If you have clients who keep telling you to redo your work, maybe it is time to assess how much you really need their business.