I tend to keep an eye out for a few different things when I am out and about in the world. One of them is keeping a mental note of rich friends versus poor friends, another one is keeping a mental note of people who are living a good life versus a bad life.
When I say rich friends versus poor friends I am not just talking about financial wealth, although that is part of it, it is not the whole meaning. A rich friend, or person, for instance isn't someone who just has lots of money. They are also rich in health, love and happiness. They seem to have a good sense of different areas of their life figured out and are living in a way that is beneficial to them but also to others. A poor friend, or person, for instance isn't just someone who is financially poor and no money in their bank account. They are also poor in health, love and happiness. They seem to think the world is out to get them and perhaps are unhealthy -possibly overweight or just unhealthy in their eating habits and/or never does any kind of exercise- and they also seem to not have life really figured out.
When I say life figured out, I don't mean they know what happens when they die, or have all the answers or are a perfect gem. It doesn't mean they have everything like Health, Wealth, Love and Happiness figured out per say, but in these 4 areas if they have it figured out they are doing better in them versus the ones who don't have it figured out. None of us will always be at 100% in all 4 areas at the same time all the time. We may be 100% in health and love, but but only 50% in happiness at a given time. In other words, being at a 100% in all 4 areas is a constant work in progress for all of us, no matter if you are rich or poor. But the rich people tend to lean more on the side of having all 4 areas at a higher percent more often than not.
One thing I notice about the two different types of people is that we see rich people as having got ahead in life and doing way better off then those who are poor. If you are only thinking that rich means money and poor means no money than it is really easy to say that the rich person has gotten ahead and the poor person has not. But if you think like, or start to think and understand, the meaning of them as I expressed above it changes our perception on what getting ahead means. Once we are in this mindset it changes how we view a person being ahead and see that there are a few different elements in being ahead.
What I notice about rich people versus poor people is that rich people are on a continued journey in working towards being a 100% in all 4 areas, but they also know that some days, weeks, and even years, one particular area for them needs more work than another. And since they recognize that one key area needs more attention than another they work on it, but they also do not fail to neglect the other areas they are doing good at. This does not mean that they never neglect an area they are doing good at because once they start being happy for no reason all the time and then switch to working on health, it is possible that their happiness goes down a bit while they are boosting their health. So then they have to work some more on happiness. The cycle is almost never ending, but it is the journey and rewards they get by working on them that keeps them going and continuing to work on them.
It is fascinating to create a list with two columns, one side is rich friends and the other side is poor friends, and to keep track of the differences between the two groups. Weird patterns start to emerge over time you wouldn't think to ever think about between the two groups. Some things prove your point about one group over the other of course while other things open your eyes. Take for instance reading and continuing to learn through books and being a life long knowledge seeker.
It is so interesting to see the difference between the two groups. On one side you have a group that has a vast library at home and would seem they are always getting more books. You see that they set times aside to read everyday and to learn new things everyday. They use their new found knowledge and seem to find ways to implement these into their life and business. By doing this it also seems that they are more reasonable in discussions and able to hear the other side more fully and willing to look further into that side, perhaps even getting books that support the other side. They do this so they can have a full understanding of the issue from both sides of the argument, which allows them to make a more informed opinion about it. Instead of using confirmation bias to just confirm their own opinion, they take a step back and see if their thinking has been wrong and if they may change their opinion about the issue. Of course by looking at both sides they may end up confirming what they thought they already new, but they may also completely change their opinion. The key is, they are willing to do either and to seek knowledge to further enlighten themselves and not be so stubborn. If they are stubborn about an issue chances are they have already done all the knowledge seeking on the topic and this is why they seem stubborn because they have already gone through all the facts. But they also know there are always new facts to be learned which sets them apart.
Other things I notice is rich people are willing to experiment more often than not and are down to try new things out to see if they work. They also know when to stop an experiment and not continue for ever with it if it is not working for them.
Mentors are also a big part of rich peoples lives and they have more than just one mentor. The see the value from having mentors and how it vastly improves their life. They also mentor others as they can and see value in doing so as well.
Rich people own up to their errors and mistakes and do not try and make excuses, they acknowledge and correct the issue at hand and take responsibility for it. The other big thing about this is that they learn from it and grow from it. It helps them navigate better next time this things starts to happen again or to completely avoid it altogether.
Sure rich people can be lazy just like the rest of us at times, but you will never find them living in front of the TV all day everyday. They have drive and determination and grit and are always doing things to improve themselves more often than not. The poor people I see are the opposite of this and also seem to complain a lot about why good things don't happen for them.
Rich people do what it takes and put in the time and effort to accomplish what they set out to do. You won't see them trying to work only 4 hours a week, you see them putting in the grind until it is done no matter how many hours a day or week it takes.
So why do some people get ahead and others don't? I think it really comes down to our own thinking and framing of how the world works but also our drive and determination and willingness to endure through both the good and bad. Unfortunately we cannot teach drive and determination, it has to come from within yourself. You have to find inspiration in others stories to be able to understand how all this works.
The media never brings up the whole story about people who are rich. We hear about someone like Bill Gates and how much money he has but we never really hear that for 10 years he worked everyday of those 10 years with no days off, not a single day, programing and learning everything about it until he created Microsoft. 10 years straight! When is the last time you put just 1/10th of that into something? Just 1 year into something you were so passionate about you couldn't stop until it was completed. But we only hear the final result and then think it is so easy to achieve what someone like Bill Gates achieved. Or we say Bill Gates is so lucky, or he got so lucky. If working 365 days a year for 10 years straight is lucky then I suppose you are right. This is part of the problem why people think things should just happen for them and just given to them, they think it is easy. It is not easy. It is in fact a long journey and hard and the struggle is real.
We are only ever going to get the results we want by putting in the time, effort and work to get those results. If things just happened overnight, all of us would be rich in everything. But we fail to see this and then wonder why we are not rich and things are not working out for us. If you spent just a little bit of time thinking about this stuff you would realize on your own why not everyone in the world is rich in everything, it is pretty obvious when you really look into it.
I have never personally heard or read any story about someone who sat around all day watching TV get called up one day by a big company that told this person we want you to work for us and the salary will by 1million a year. Have you? If you have then I am wrong in this statement, but I would ask back to you how many times has this happened to people in history then? If it is only that one time it is a fluke and we cannot base one persons seemingly luck to justify our own laziness that somehow, one day, a company will call us and offer this kind of job. Yet a lot of people think this exact kind of way. They don't put effort into anything and still wonder why no one is calling them with offers. It is like trying to get a job and turning on the TV and watching TV from 9am to 5pm and wondering why we are not getting job offers. The world does not work like this, yet for some reason people think it should or think it is unfair when someone else does so good in life. Chances are the other person did a lot of stuff to make it happen for themselves and all the things they were doing combined made it possible after months and years of struggling but still grinding.
Take some time to really get down to the truth about why you are not getting ahead in life. Be honest with yourself. Do you have an idea about a business but it is not becoming a reality? If so, how much effort did you put into it last week, over the last month and over the last year? No time, an hour, two hours, or did you put in all the time you could possibly put into it given your current life schedule? Chances are the answer to this question is also the answer to why you are not getting anywhere.
I know reality seems harsh and having to grind so hard is difficult, especially when you have a 9-5 job and a family, but the only way to achieve the life you want is to want it so bad you do everything you can to reach that goal every spare moment you have of each and every day. To get what you want, you have to deserve what you want. "The world is not yet a crazy enough place to reward a whole bunch of undeserving people." - Charles T. Munger
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