Master, why do you continue to practice? Casals replied; Because I am making progress. - Pablo Casals
You are going to go through big changes in life to get to where you want to be in life. Day one could be a big one for you if everyone in your life is holding you back and reinforcing your negative assets. If you want positive assets and outcomes in life you need to associate yourself with positive affinities. That is just a fact. Mentors are one of the best possible ways to achieve your goals...
Survival machines that can simulate the future are one jump ahead of survival machines who can only learn on the basis of overt trial and error. The trouble with overt trial is that it takes time. The trouble with overt error is that it is often fatal. Simulation is both safer & faster - Richard Dawkins; The Selfish Gene.
Autonomy, complexity and a connection between effort & reward = satisfying/meaningful work - Malcolm Gladwell.